It is a strange thing when you are searching for things you have in common with people to deliberately try to start out along the path which may end with the striking up of friendships. This is not something you would ever really do in your native land because friendships tend to just evolve. It is these bonds with friends that are one of the harder things to deal with when leaving your homeland.
After previous comments on diversity, it is interesting that this finding of things in common is easier with people from Britain on certain levels – I guess because in some ways you might have the same back story and it is interesting to hear about the experiences of other like-minded folk.
On two separate occasions I have come across people working for the same employer who are both from Sheffield in South Yorkshire…not too far from where I moved from. And to add to that slightly surprising edge, both proclaiming a past or current affinity to Sheffield United (the home of which is Bramall Lane – for my international readers)…just like I was before I became generally disillusioned with the general entertainment value (and blinded bias of many supporters) of supporting a professional football club!
I am not sure what the odds of this happening might be because there are so many immigrants in NZ but it is kind of spooky.
On both occasions we have had nights out with said people which is really out of comfort zone when you are both reserved Brits AND strangers (one lady did say that she didn’t want to appear like they were swingers by suggesting such a night out!!) but there does seem to be a willingness over here for people to do that kind of thing…and when you are new to a place that is a beautiful thing!
When we first arrived, a fellow Brit said to us that they have found it harder to make friends with locals because they are all so friendly that it is hard to work out who your true friends really are. This is an interesting view on life in NZ and one which I sincerely hope will be proven wrong in my case over time…but only by getting out there and mixing with the locals can this be realised.
Watch this space…